Just My Opinion

Hypocrisy is pretty common. In fact, I think everyone is a hypocrite to some extent. But when it gets to the point where you are living your life thinking that you know what's best, you know more than everyone else, or you're just annoying me with your "point", I'm going to speak up.

Firstly, let's just start talking about, oh, I don't know...marijuana. It's bad, right? It's a drug, it dangerous, it always lead to trouble, it's just this horrible thing. Can you name a few reasons why? It leads to other drugs? Actually, no, at least not in my opinion. Marijuana isn't like cocaine, heroine, or even pain pills that are both physically and mentally addictive. In fact, I don't think I've ever heard of anyone having withdraws from pot. Have you? Oh but it's bad for your. Maybe, but isn't eating fast food every day bad for you too? Isn't smoking a pack of cigarettes a day killing you quicker than smoking a joint every once a while is? Wait, wait, wait. I forgot. Weed is dangerous! But...then again, I've never heard of someone getting killed in a "high driving" accident. I've never heard of anyone lashing out and beating their kids, or having any of the same affects that alcohol does. So how is it we can throw 99 proof bottles of liquor on the shelves of every liquor store, but when it comes to smoking a PLANT, it's suddenly the worst thing imaginable. I'm not claiming to know everything that there is to know about this, but I think people should be aware that it isn't what everyone makes it out to be.

I find it pretty ridiculous that someone can't sit and enjoy something in the comfort and privacy of their own home without being criticized for it, yet there are people out there daily, killing others because they're too drunk to realize they shouldn't be driving.

So Many Changes!

Over the past month, a TON of stuff has changed. For starters, we moved! This is definitely something that needed to happen for multiple reasons. Firstly, our old landlord was an idiot, Adam's now closer to work, and we get to live with one of our best friends. Win, win, win. Basically, the past month has thrown a billion stresses our way, but each one got resolved and I can honestly say that my life is a ton better than it has ever been. 
We officially moved last Friday and I am SO happy to be out of Brookville, and I'm super stoked to see what this summer and the rest of the year brings. 

Movin On Up

   All in all, my life isn't too exciting. Most of these blog will be about normal things like money, college, friends, etc. so if that stuff bores you, sorry boutcha, you can stop reading anytime you'd like :)


   A lot of my friends are starting to look for their own places now that they have either graduated college or are just ready to get out on their own. I moved in with Adam when I was 17, we've lived in eight different apartments, and he's been through three different jobs. We made so many mistakes along the way, it's ridiculous. 


   Before you start to think that I'm trying to come off as high and mighty, a know-it-all, I'm not. I'm FAR from finished learning lessons about the real world, but I have learned a great deal in the past 4 years, things that if I could, I might re-do, but nonetheless, I've learned and become a better person for it. 


   When we got our first place, I didn't know anything about anything. Seriously. I was supposed to be a junior in high school but instead I was faced with huge responsibilities. I had no idea that so much effort went into being on your own. I sucked...SUCKED at budgeting, and at the time I didn't really think anything of it. He would get paid every week, we would eat out a lot, spend money on stupid stuff, and before we knew it, "whoops! His check was spent." We didn't save money for rent. We didn't save for groceries, bills, or really anything else. 

   When we got married a few months later, though, we started getting better at managing money and saving what we could. But still, we basically spent the first 3 years that we were together acting stupid and blowing money. We never had a plan. 


   It's mostly just been the last year that I have started to realize it's time to grow up and stop acting immature. You can't have everything you want. You have to sacrifice things in order to pay for other things. If it were up to me I would have sleeves, new furniture, a new car and a crap-ton of other stuff, but it's not going to happen right now, and probably not even in the near future. You'll learn to appreciate the little things that you have, your family, friends, just having a place to call your own is something to be proud of.


   So, my advice to anyone who is about to move out on their own, or anyone who is planning on moving out on their own, you definitely need a plan. You need to save a good chunk of money for a deposit, usually anywhere from $500-$1500. Make sure that you or your spouse makes enough to be able to pay the rent, bills, utilities, gas, groceries, etc. Because if you don't, you'll end up regretting it REAL soon. Trust me.


   I never listened to my parents when they told me how hard it is to manage money, and live on your own. Granted, I don't live by myself, obviously, but I sure as hell should have paid attention to the advice my mom and dad gave me 4 years ago so I could have prevented a lot of the crap we ended up going through. 


   Let's be real, though, no one wants to live with their parents. People either want to go to college, or travel or even settle down and start a family. But sometimes it's necessary. Sometimes I wish I would have given it a couple of years before getting our own place so that I could grow up a little first. But when you do move out, it's awesome, it's not all struggles and worrying about money. It really is fun. Especially when you really love where you live and you can turn it into a home.

“Promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.”

   Why is it so hard for people to just accept you for who you are instead of constantly criticizing not only you, but basically everything that you believe in.

   I’ve spent my whole life trying my best to not judge anyone when it comes to their beliefs, and I’m not going to start now. It’d just be nice to get the same in return.

I honestly don’t care what you believe. Whether you’re for or against abortion, gay marriage, whether you’re a Christian, agnostic, or any other religion out there. I don’t think that those things determine 100% who we are as people.

   I think it’s more personal than anything else. But when it comes down to it, a Christian and an atheist can be best friends. Religion, personal beliefs, etc. doesn’t need to be brought into a friendship if you don’t want it to. Friends are people that you can have fun with, that you can confide in when you’re struggling; someone who will be there to laugh with you, cry with you.

   Why does our country divide themselves based solely on religion? We’re all human. We all believe in something differently. If we take a microscope and look at how different we all really are, then everyone would probably hate each other but that's not how it's supposed to be, yet that's the way it seems to be these days.

   I constantly see statuses on facebook about religion, bashing Christianity, bashing beliefs.

And it’s not just that but Christians do it, too. Or at least people claiming to be.

The website godhatesfags.com---I couldn’t believe what I was seeing when I saw that website. It’s sickening to think that these people claim to be Christians, when Christians should be non-judgmental, loving, forgiving. They represent none of that.

   Everyone is free to believe in whatever they want. I’m just sick of people taking that right and using it to belittle other people.

“Promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.”

It’s as simple as that. You can stand up for what you believe in without being judgmental against people who don’t believe the same things.

Not Cut Out For This

I've never had a ton of close friends, so for the past 5 years I've grown used to doing everything with Adam. I don't usually get invited to go out and do things. Not really sure why, I guess people just assume that since I'm married, I don't want to go out and have fun, which obviously isn't the case.


I've been to a total of maybe 3 parties in my whole life and I'm fine with that but at the same time, in the past 6 months, I've only gone out with friends a few times. So sometimes I think maybe I'm not cut out for this; maybe I'm just better off accepting that the fact that I only have a few friends isn't going to change.


Getting to the point, though, I'm just like anyone else. I like to have fun. Maybe my idea of fun isn't the same as everyone else's and maybe I just need to find some friends who enjoy doing the same stuff that I do and who aren't going to hesitate before inviting me to hang out with them. Like anyone else, I want to be included in my friends life, not when its just convenient for them. I want to be acknowledged which I'm pretty sure is all anyone has ever wanted.

Mother's Day

   With it being Mother's Day and all, obviously today most people are thinking of that special person in their life; mom!

My mom is one of the strongest people that I have ever met. She did an amazing job raising me, despite my stubbornness as a teenager, and has always been there for me through all the struggles life as thrown at me.

   She's been there to give me advice and listen to all my problems. She's talked to me about anything and everything and has the best sense of humor in the world and can always make me laugh. We don't always get along but she always forgives me for being cranky and sometimes even downright mean. 

   I will always be proud to call her my mom, and I hope that someday I can be as good of a mother to my children as my mom was and is to me!

Goals

When Adam and I got our own place when I was only 17, I made a choice then to not work. I chose to stay home and be the best fiance that I could. And when we got married in 2009, I chose to continue staying home and be the best wife that I could. I have heard hundreds of times that I am lazy, married Adam so I wouldn't have to work, I'm just using him. Please. If I was going to marry someone for money, it wouldn't be someone who makes 12 bucks an hour at Amazon. haha 


We don't have kids. I'm not a super busy person running around like a chicken with my head cut off. I don't struggle to keep my house clean, or keep up with things around the house but I do my part in my marriage and I make my husband proud, just as he makes me proud. I cook, I clean, and take care of the finances. This has always been, not only my choice, but Adam's, as well.


In October of last year, I got a job on Elance. I didn't love it but I didn't hate it, either. It only paid 290 a week and I worked my ass off, writing 10 blogs a day, each 600 words, each, on credit repair. Yes, credit repair. 70 blogs a week on just one subject is tough but I managed to do it and finally my boss gave me a much easier topic to work with and a much easier schedule; fashion and I only have to write 20 blogs a week but the pay is a lot less at only $70-$90 a week. I definitely find this a lot easier to balance.


Obviously I don't plan to go my whole life not working at a "real" job. The main reason I never started working in the first place was because I didn't want work to consume my life, especially if I'm not doing something that I truly love. SO! I decided to go back to school for Interior Design. It's something that I have been interested in for the past 6 years and I am sooo ready to pursue it and give it my all. And I'm so proud of Adam for recently deciding to go back to school for audio engineering. 


In five years, I plan to hopefully be graduated and working as an Interior Designer. I hope to have a kid by then and be settled down wherever life takes us. I also hope that by then I can look back on all the struggles and be proud of how far we have come. 


So don't judge me if you don't know the whole situation. I have goals just like anyone else. I'm not planning on living out my days and becoming a crazy cat lady XD. I love my husband very much and would never make any choices that he wasn't happy with. It's our marriage, our life and as long as we're happy with it, everyone else can say what they want :)